Life with Twins: It Really Does Get Easier

 I remember those early days with my twins when the only phrase going through my head was: “I can’t anymore.” No sleep, no time to eat, no shower… sometimes even no chance to breathe. And then on top of it all, people around you have endless advice.

“You should use a different blanket.”
“That carrier is not good for them.”
“You should raise them differently.”

And the best part? Most of the time, this advice comes from people who have never had twins (because let’s be honest – twin pregnancies are still rare; in fact, only about 1 in 80 pregnancies results in twins). So yes, even if someone has three kids, it’s still not the same as raising two newborns at once. Especially during that first year.

And here comes the heart of the story: everyone kept telling me, “Just wait until they start walking, it’s going to be even worse!” or “The older they get, the harder it gets.”

Well, let me tell you something surprising: for me, the opposite was true.

After the first year, things started to get… easier. Yes, easier.

When they finally learned to walk? My back was screaming with joy! Finally, I didn’t have to carry two babies at once everywhere I went. When I changed one’s diaper, I could ask the other to bring me a clean one. Suddenly, they were busy at the same time, and I wasn’t torn in two different directions.

Bath time? Oh, the sweet victory of putting them both in the tub together! Of course, any help from Dad (or anyone else) was still golden, but at least I could manage the evening routine without collapsing in tears.

The beginning though… oh boy, it’s brutal. Sleepless nights (if you can even call it “sleep”), being on your feet all day, and the constant guilt. Because no matter how much you do, one baby always seems to get less attention, fewer cuddles, or just has to wait. And moms always carry that guilt.

Add to that: no time to eat properly, no time for laundry, sometimes no time even for a two-minute shower. In that moment, there is no light at the end of the tunnel. You can’t imagine that things will change.

But you know what? The human body is stronger than we think. Kids grow. Faster than we expect. And sometimes, out of nowhere, a small breakthrough happens – and life takes a step forward. Then another.

Step by step, it gets better.

And those little guilty thoughts – “I forgot to schedule the doctor’s appointment,” “I missed the vitamins,” “I didn’t cook a healthy meal today” – they don’t help. They only add stress. And stress? Well, that leads to wrinkles. And none of us want that!

So to all exhausted twin moms out there: I see you. I feel you. And I promise – it really does get easier.

Twin Mom Survival Tips (from someone who’s been there)

1. Lower your standards (seriously).
   Your house doesn’t need to look Instagram-perfect. If everyone is fed, alive, and occasionally clean – you’re winning.

2. Ask for help without guilt.
   If someone offers to cook, fold laundry, or hold a baby – let them. You’re not weak. You’re human. And human with twins is basically a superhero already.

3. Find your shortcuts.
   Two in the tub at once. Snacks that don’t require peeling or chopping. Pajamas that double as daywear (no judgment). Efficiency is queen.

4. Stop comparing.
   Your neighbor with one baby who sleeps 12 hours? Not your reality. Don’t measure your worth by someone else’s highlight reel.

5. Laugh whenever you can.
   Yes, there will be chaos. Yes, someone will poop the second you change the diaper. If you don’t laugh, you’ll cry. And laughing gives you fewer wrinkles.

6. Remember: it does get easier.
   The first year is survival. After that? Step by step, you start living again – with two little partners in crime by your side.

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